There are a few fundamental things to be understood. First, a man and a woman are on the one hand halves of the other, and on the other hand, opposite polarities. Their being opposites attracts them to each other. The farther away they are, the deeper will be the attraction; the more different from each other they are, the more will be the charm and beauty and attraction. But there lies the whole problem. ten they come close, they want to come closer, they want to merge into each other, they want to become one, a harmonious whole— but their whole attraction depends on opposition, and the harmony will depend on dissolving the opposition. Unless a love affair is very conscious, it is going to create great anguish, great trouble. All lovers are in trouble. The trouble is not personal; it is in the very nature of things. They would not have been attracted to each other— they call it falling in love— they can not give any reason why they have such a tremendous pull towards each other. They are not even conscious of the underlying cause hence a strange thing happens, the happiest lovers are those who never meet. Once they meet, the same opposition that created attraction b becomes a conflict. On each small point, their attitudes are different although they speak the same language, they cannot understand each other. The way a man looks at the world is different from a woman. For example, a man is interested in far away things — in the future of humanity, in the faraway stars, whether there are living beings on other planets or not. A woman simply giggles at the whole nonsense. She is only interested in a very small closed circle— in the neighbors, in the family, in who is cheating his wife, whose wife has fallen in love with the chauffeur. Her interest is very local and very human. She is not worried about reincarnation; neither is she concerned about life after death. Her concern is more pragmatic. She is concerned with the present, here and now. Man is never here and know He is always some where else. He has strange occupations— reincarnation, life after death. If both partners are conscious of the fact that it is a meeting of oppositions, that there is no need to make it a conflict, then there is a great opportunity to understand the totally opposite point of view and absorb it. Then the life of a man and a woman can become a beautiful harmony. Otherwise it is a continuous fight. There are holidays. One cannot continue to fight twenty four hours a day, one needs a little rest too— a rest to get ready for a new fight. But it is one of the strangest phenomena that for thousands of years men and women have been living together, yet they are strangers. They go on giving birth to children, but still they remain strangers. The feminine approach and the masculine approach are so opposed to each ether that unless a conscious effort i5 made, unless it becomes your meditation, there is no hope of having a peaceful life.  Those are the words of Osho , late enlightened spiritual leader. Next time more , as letters should be short and to the.